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PLEASE HELP
Hi everyone,
I have a problem with a certain sin that i cant stop....iits pretty famous sin among us teenagers. If you dont know what i am talking about, its masturbation.
I have a big problem with it and i cant stop. please give me advice
Thank You and God Bless
I have a problem with a certain sin that i cant stop....iits pretty famous sin among us teenagers. If you dont know what i am talking about, its masturbation.
I have a big problem with it and i cant stop. please give me advice
Thank You and God Bless
Comments
lets get to the stuff that will help:
mat 5:
28 But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.
29 And if thy right eye offend thee, pluck it out, and cast it from thee: for it is profitable for thee that one of thy members should perish, and not that thy whole body should be cast into hell.
30 And if thy right hand offend thee, cut it off, and cast it from thee: for it is profitable for thee that one of thy members should perish, and not that thy whole body should be cast into hell.
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Masturbation is a very difficult issue to deal w/ at youth. The main problem is self-control of our physical bodies desires. Similar to controlling our bodies during fasts.
The whole purpose of masturbation/sex is for pleasure. By doing this you are feeding the desire of the body.
Two things here have offended you: 1) your eye, 2) your hand
Both in scripture show that they should be cut/plucked off! But we will not go to that extent because it should not be taken literally.
Look at it this way. Every single occurence of masturbation is equal to adultery. And every single "partner" that you have committed this sin with will be remembered. So in your memory remains the history of all these women/men that you have committed this sin with.
Another factor is when seeking marriage or courting. (NOT THAT I APPROVE SEXUAL INTERCOURSE DURING COURTSHIP) Due to your history with other women/men during masturbation this will make it extremly difficult in choosing a partner because of the variation that you have been exposed to previously. Even though we know this sacrament remains in God's hands, we must also aid in the process. This will make you reject a prospective partner because of appearance which does not hold truth. This may also cause future problems when having intercourse with your future partner during wedlock.
Erections may not occur due to insuffiency of your partner to please you as you did previously. When it was said nobody knows you better than yourself (they werent wrong), especially when it comes to masturbation because of breathing. So pleasure from masturbation maybe better than sexual intercourse because you know how to control yourself.
If you are a male, free testosterone in the blood is converted to DHT (which is responsible for male secondary sex characteristics) during masturbation. An excess of DHT might cause baldness earlier, also including genetic factors . Dont want that, do we? Females dont have that problem because of lower levels of testosterone.
Instead of shifting all your strength into masturbation, whether your a male or female (esp men because of testosterone levels), try to go to the gym, run (something called runner's high which will secrete dopamine, like masturbation). Imagine how much time you have wasted masturbated where you could have focused that time into learning new hymns, volunteering, reading the bible, or even working. The keyword is to "shift" this desire into something else that will benefit you more than anything.
I hope i have helped you with my little knowledge of this topic.
And speak to your Father of Confession regarding this topic for assistance.
May the Lord stand by you and your family.
PEACE
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The main problem is that we are not keeping Jesus constantly infront of our eyes, because if we were we would not be hurting Him so much; if we kept that image of Him, nailed to the cross, bleeding for me up there, we would not think about hurting Him again, after having already suffered so much for us.
You have to always remember that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit; God's spirit, Jesus Himself lives inside of you! Can you imagine having the king of kings living in you but deciding to forget about Him, and not respecting the body which He gave you Never ever say "you cant stop", you can stop, not on your own, but by the one that makes His strength perfect in our weakness, the one that through Him all things are possible. It is obvious that you want to stop, otherwise you would not be asking for help, but you have to ask yourself are you trying hard enough to stop, are you trying as much as possible to avoid everything that causes you to do this sin?
You have to try hard, with many prayers, with many tears, and remember to never give up, even if you fall many times again, you have to remember that we arent perfect, but always assure yourself and have confidence that you can do all things in Christ who strengthens you
Try to keep yourself busy, be involved in sports, or in activities, try to help out in church, or join clubs in school, anything that can fill up your time and keep your mind off the thought.
Trust in God and know that if you really ask Him from your heart and put your hand in His, He will never leave you alone, He will always be by your side and help you in your struggle
if you want somehting practical to do can i suggest that every night in your prayers (make sure u dont miss a night) kneel before God and do three martarn3a's (sorry i dont know how to spell it) as your doing them pray and say "Through the Power of The Holy Spirit and my Lord Jesus Christ... take away this sin of masturbation" do this three times every night and remind yourself that it is this that will stop you from going to heaven... be repentant about it and dont be affraid to speak with your confession father about it!! know that he has expereince with such sins and he will tell u how to deal with it.
and if not then againe if you are a girl the you are goner, but if you are a boy atleast care about the girl you are gonna marry cuz she might get inficted if you are inficted!
GBWU
1: Get away from every single thing that helps and encourages you to do this sin
2: Once you feel that the thought came to you and telling you to do the sin, jump from bed and do mataniat until you get really really tired and you can't even stand, keep doing that, this is one of the best methods to get over this sin.
3: If you are a guy or a girl, look at your friends of opposite sex from church and try to make very nice friendship with them, once you do, you will feel really embarrased to do the sin because you admire your friends and you can't think of your opposite friends in a bad way
4: Pray a lot to GOD to help you and never ever give up and lose hope in GOD no matter how many times you fall because it is written in the bible "La tashmaty fee ya 3adewaty la2any en sakat akoom), and consider that every time you fight this sin and try GOD gives you crown of trying to be pure.
5: Falling in this sin while you are trying to fight this sin is much much better to GOD than falling to it because you want to do it. If you fall while you are fighting it, GOD puts his hands and helps you because he knows that you are fighting, and I'm sure you are trying to fight this sin because you are askin for help, most importantly you must tell you FOC because this really helps.
6: you have to understand how bad this sin is for your health. If you are a male, every time semen comes out, each 1 cm of semen causes your heart to try to make an equivalent of 15 cm of new blood, so imagine how much you hurting yourself everytime you are doing it, also it does affect a lot your eye sight, so lol also you don't wana lose your eye sight. Also it does affect the percentage of you being able to get kids in the future, but to be correct, you have to be addicted very badly to this sin so that you don't get kids but it happens. If you are a female, again its very bad for you because you might tear your hymen while you are doing masturbation and like this you are not a virgin which is very bad lol.
7: Try your very best to always tell your self that with the help of GOD you will not do this sin, keep your thoughts pure, masturbation will waste a lot of nice things you can do in your age, it will make you feel lonely and will make you try to always get the desire and the plesure from your self, in other words you will be selfish, while in your age you should be open to other people so that you can make good personality and nice friendships with everyone (whether same sex or opposite)
8: Read lost of stories of saints, life of saints show great examples on how these saints used to prefer to die rather than losing thier purity, when you read this before you sleep, it will make you grow stronger and will make you fight it, and you must know, the devil will always try to convince you that there is no hope in stopping this sin while there is definitely a hope of stopping this sin (ofcourse with the help of GOD and taking his holy body and blood).
9: like how other people said, try to involve yourself in lots of activites, keep yourself busy all the time, play sports, go to the gym, serve in church, learn new hymns: I personally find that this helps a lot in fighting against sins regarding purity so please try it and you will see how it helps. Make friendship with the pure guys from your church, becuase when you see how they go stronger in their spiritual life, this will influence you to become stronger and stronger.
10: Always confess about this sin to you FOC no matter how many times you fall, this helps a lot because your FOC will give you lots of techniques, and never feel shy to go to abouna and confess about it especially if you are a girl, because that's exactly what the devil wants, devil wants you to be shy and never go to abouna so that you would continue in this sin, and Lol how would you trust that masturbation won't lead you in the future to full adultry? so be carfull for your spiritual life, we are the sons and daughters of Christ.
Again I do repeat that its very very good from you that you seek help because that means that you are fighting this sin, please always ask for help and sorry for the long msg
thanks
baladoos
God bless
When you feel your are about to commit this particular sin, look at the woman closely. And think, this woman can only satisfy the needs of my flesh, but Lord Jesus Christ satisfys my everyneed.
Also think: The love of my Lord Jesus is greater than any false love I can get from a human being.
Last but not least think: The Lord loves me, and I love him, he gave up his body for me. Therefore I shall give my body to him, and not give my body into tempation from the devil.
i dont know? media makes it seem so normal.. im so confused now.
Baladoos
Read the bible. When you taste God's word, you feel moved by its comforting power. The epistles teach you how much more important the heavenly life is. The pleasures of this world are so temporary, The pleasure of tasting God's word and living in heaven is ETERNAL.
We have to notice something. People are willing to get killed for Christ. They don't do it out of pride for being a Christian, they do it because they know that their religion (i dont like to call chirstianity a religion) is the TRUTH.
This sin is deadly. But it can be defeated never ever lose hope.